How to Find the Man of Your Dreams
| The Relationship Doctor | |
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| Wednesday, August 26, 2009 Bob Grant, Licensed Professional Counselor | |
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Stop waiting for love to find you...
Okay, are you done choosing the top 3 attributes or traits of your dream man? |
You're not alone. There are countless women who are in the same boat as you. Consider the following:
FACT: A study by The New York Times and the Census bureau has shown that more than half of the adult women in America are single. This is the first time in history that the number of single women in America -- 50 million -- has exceeded the number of married women. |
Imagine ... there are now over 50 million single women in America -- and the number of single women in other countries is just as staggering.
But unfortunately, being in the company of millions of single women doesn't make you feel any less lonely or discouraged, does it?
Chances are, you've begun to ask yourself, 'What's wrong with me? Why can't I find a wonderful man who wants to marry me?'
In my 17 years of experience as a Licensed Professional Counselor, therapist and relationship coach, I've found that marriage-minded single women who haven't found their dream man -- or haven't received a marriage proposal -- tend to have feelings of being worthless or defective with every passing day. Even if they try to appear confident and carefree on the outside, they usually hide a deep-seated feeling of isolation -- of being left behind.
A single woman's fears, insecurities and loneliness are magnified whenever a friend or relative gets married -- and she still isn't married. Every time she sees a happily married couple, she is given the awful reminder that no man wants to marry her. She worries she'll never find Mr. Right, that she'll never be married -- or that she's doomed to a lonely, unmarried life. She even begins to wonder whether she should just settle for any man who comes around.
Does this sound familiar? Perhaps you've felt this same pain yourself?
What if I told you that I can help you easily find and attract not just any man -- but the man of your dreams -- and that I can guarantee he will propose marriage to you in 6 to 12 months or less?
In the next 5 minutes, as you read this article in its entirety, you will discover ...
... the No. 1 reason why most women are not able to find, attract and keep the man of their dreams -- and what you can do about it so that you can finally find a wonderful man who wants to marry you |
It doesn't matter whether you're a single woman who's never been married, or a divorced or widowed woman who wishes to remarry. Neither does it matter whether you're tall or short, shy or outgoing, thin or heavy, what your skin color is, whether you have children or not, or what part of the country (or the world) you live in. It also makes no difference how many times you've tried to find the right man and failed. When you follow my proven plan exactly as prescribed, you cannot fail to get the man of your dreams -- and more importantly, have a long-lasting and blissful relationship with him.
Who Am I -- and Why Do I Get So Many Wedding Invitations?
My name is Bob Grant. I'm a Licensed Professional Counselor, therapist, and relationship coach with 17 years of successful practice. I'm also the author of two popular books, The Woman Men Adore ... And Never Want to Leave (2005), and How to Get Him Back (2007).
People call me "The Relationship Doctor" because I have the prescription for finding love, keeping passion alive, and reigniting relationships that have lost their spark.
It always amazes me when women tell me "It's so hard to find a good man." On the contrary, I think it's really easy for any woman -- and that includes you -- to find not just any good man but your dream man -- if you know how. I'll tell you how in a moment.
Year after year, I get the privilege of seeing many of my female clients not only have a wonderful man walk right into their life -- but also receive a marriage proposal within a short period of time. In fact, one of the most gratifying rewards of my practice is the number of wedding invitations I receive from clients!
"Will I Ever Get Married?" A client of mine (whom I will call Susan) was 29 years old when she came to seek my help. She wanted to get married, but no matter how many different men she dated, none of them led to marriage -- and she was very frustrated. |
Over the last 17 years of counseling hundreds of real-life female clients, I have carefully observed women who have been able to successfully find, attract and marry their dream man -- as well as women who have not been successful.
I made a very interesting discovery!
I found out that the women who are not successful at finding their dream man have one thing in common. Do you know what it is? Check one below.
A. They don't go out often enough, so they don't meet enough eligible |
Have you placed a check mark next to your answer? If so, which of the above did you check
-- A, B, C or D?
If you checked any one of them, then I'm afraid that your answer ...
... is wrong.
The correct answer is none of them!
While some of the answers listed above do contribute to a woman's lack of success in finding her dream man, it's not the main reason. Read below
The No. 1 Reason Why You Have Not Been Able to ...you have an ineffective pattern regarding your relationships with men. Patterns don't lie. |
A pattern is a combination of behaviors, thoughts, emotions, actions, qualities and tendencies forming a consistent arrangement that generally brings about a predictable result.The good news is that once you identify the ineffective pattern and replace it with an effective one, there is a very high probability that you will find, attract and have a successful relationship with the man of your dreams.
Yes -- believe it or not, it's as simple as that!
The problem that most single women have is that they don't know the difference between an effective pattern regarding relationships and an ineffective, self-sabotaging pattern. In fact, most women don't even know that they have a pattern in the first place!
"Why do I always attract the wrong kind of men?" In February 2004, Melissa J. wanted to quit dating altogether. She was 37, had been dating continuously since she was 16 -- and she was sick to death of the dating scene. In the last 21 years, she'd had two boyfriends that lasted more than a year, and the rest lasted only a few weeks to a few months apiece. She was so depressed because all her girlfriends had already gotten married and she was the only one who remained single. And yet she dreaded dating yet another guy because she believed that all men were jerks and all the good ones were already taken. She began believing the cruel joke that says, "It's more likely for a single woman over 35 to be killed by terrorists than to be married." |
replace it with an effective one. Her new pattern created just aIf you're in a hurry, click here to discover how to find the man of your dreams now.
What You Want -- versus What You Think You Want -- in a Man
Earlier on, I asked you to pick the top 3 attributes or traits of your dream man. Hopefully, you did that little fun exercise at the top of this page.
Now, listen closely.
Just because you picked the top 3 qualities of your dream man does not mean those are the things you want in a man.
Now, I can almost hear you say, "Huh?" Let me explain.
The top 3 things you answered are what you think you want in a man -- and not necessarily what you really want in a man.
In my 17 years of relationship coaching, I've found that ...
what most women think they want in a man
is incompatible with
what they really want.
No wonder they can't find their dream man! There's a big discrepancy between the two.
I'm sure you've known women who've gushed about finding their dream man -- saying he has all the things they've been looking for. And yet later on, they find out that their dream man turns out to be Mr. Wrong. Perhaps this has even happened to you?
This all has to do with the ineffective pattern I spoke of earlier. You have an unconscious pattern of being attracted to an imaginary picture of an "ideal" man that, in reality, is completely wrong for you.
What good is having a tall, dark and handsome man, for instance, if he's not good for you? What's the use of having a boyfriend with a great sense of humor if he also has traits that you can't stand? Would you want to be married to a romantic, sweet and affectionate man if he has issues that are intolerable to you?
While it's impossible to find a man that is perfect in every way, you can find a man who has all the qualities that are truly important to you, and with whom you have the highest likelihood of being happy.
I've found that when I've given women a simple exercise involving the traits of a man that truly matter a lot to them, they began to realize that the things they thought they couldn't live without weren't nearly as important as they thought.
I'm sure you've known women who, upon meeting a man who did not seem to have the ideal qualities she wanted, ended up falling in love with the man and living happily ever after. Many such women admit that if they had not gotten over their petty ideals of male perfection, they would not have found the love of their life.
Doe this mean you have to "settle" for someone who is not as great a man as you want to have?
No, not at all. You never have to compromise what you absolutely must have in a man in order to get a man who is good for you. This is not at all like wanting a tasty filet mignon but getting a bland dish of steamed broccoli instead just because it's good for you. It's not at all like wanting someone as exciting as Rhett Butler in Gone with the Wind -- but getting someone like Amos Hart, the quintessentially boring, but adoring husband of Roxie Hart in Chicago.
It's about getting a wonderful man with optimum qualities -- a man who is your most preferred choice based on what's really important to you. And isn't that the best definition of a dream man in the first place?
If you're in a hurry, click here to discover how to find your dream man now.
You Don't Have to Kiss a Lot of Frogs to Find Your Prince!
If you're like most women, the process of finding your dream man might seem like a daunting task that requires lots of trial and error before you succeed.
Believe me, I understand your dilemma because I've heard the same complaint countless times from female clients who come to me for counseling.
Whenever you start dating someone new, you wonder, "Is he the one?" You hope he's the right guy so you invest a lot of time and effort in the relationship, only to see it come to an end -- usually with a broken heart or a lot of pain.
It doesn't have to be that way. Finding your dream man is easy -- if you know how. I've put together a proven plan that will save you years of anguish in your search -- and put an end to the ineffective trial-and-error process of finding your dream man.
The proven plan I've devised, contained in my new eBook, How to Find the Man of YourDreams, is based not only on real-life feedback from dozens of my female clients, but also from time-tested strategies and techniques I've developed over the years. When properly implemented, I assure you that finding and attracting your dream man is only a few weeks or months away.
When you get your hands on my e-Book, you'll be able to easily identify your ineffective pattern that keeps you from finding your dream man. I even make suggestions on behavioral changes, internal dialogue and positive constructive actions that replace your self-sabotaging pattern with an effective one.
By simply using my proven plan, you will be amazed how effortlessly you'll find an endless pool of ideal men who are custom-tailored for you -- and who are also most likely to be mutually attracted to you and want to marry you.
You will also learn the simple exercise I devised for my clients, which will enable you to discover a more accurate view of the type of man you want to marry (see page 55). This may not seem like a big deal because you think you know your type -- but this is truly eye-opening. This alone is worth ten times the price of the book. For my clients like Susan (above), it has made the difference between being unhappily single and happily married!
But that's not all. Here's a small sampling of what you'll discover within the pages of How to Find the Man of Your Dreams:
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